Health
Taking Up Space
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“We ask ourselves, who am I
to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?”
~~ Marianne Williamson
Greetings to all my precious people!
Your mother’s body taught you your first lesson about space:
You belong here.
Inside her womb, you took up space without apology. You grew. You moved. You EXPANDED. Her body made room for you—not because you earned it, not because you stayed small. Because you existed.
And then you were born. And over the years, culture taught you the opposite: take up less space (lose weight, don’t be “too much”), be smaller (quieter, nicer, more agreeable), apologize for existing, make yourself convenient for everyone but yourself.
You learned to SHRINK.
But here’s what I need you to understand: Your body is not an apology. And taking up space is not selfish. It’s RECLAMATION.
The BodyMind is One System
“What we do, think, feel, eat, buy and expose ourselves to,
affects our bodies, minds, spirits, and relationships.
From there, we can alter things to improve our lives.”
— Dr. Claudia Welch
Greetings to all my precious people!
Before we had a body of our own, we lived inside our mother’s body.
Her heartbeat was our first rhythm.
Her breath was our first oxygen.
Her blood was our first nourishment.
The body-mind connection isn’t something we need to learn. It’s something we’re BORN knowing. Because the first body we ever experienced taught us: Bodies are not separate from life. Bodies ARE life.
Western medicine taught us to separate:
Body from mind.
Physical from emotional.
Symptoms from soul.
Matter from spirit.
But what if that separation was always an illusion?
What if body-mind is ONE system, always has been, and the division we created is what keeps us exiled from home?
THRESHOLD: Crossing Into Your Most Authentic Power
“The script of individual destiny is secret;
it is hidden behind and beneath the sequence of happenings
that is continually unfolding for us.“
~~ John O’Donohue
Greetings to all my precious people!!
On this ancient night of Samhain, when the veil between worlds grows gossamer-thin, we stand at the most potent threshold of the year. But there’s another crossing happening here – one that has nothing to do with ghosts and everything to do with the woman you’re becoming. After weeks of practicing discernment, conscious breathing, sacred boundaries, healing grief, and trusting intuition, you stand at the threshold of your most authentic power.
The Sacred Stepping-Off Point
This isn’t about becoming someone new. This is about finally becoming who you’ve always been beneath the layers of should and supposed-to, beneath the masks of people-pleasing and the armor of self-protection. At midlife, every threshold becomes an invitation to step more fully into the truth of who you are and the medicine you came here to offer.
BOUNDARIES: The Large Intestine’s Wisdom of Sacred Elimination
“Daring to set boundaries is about
having the courage to love ourselves,
even when we risk disappointing others.”
~~ Brené Brown
Greetings to all my precious people!!
Your Large Intestine knows something your mind often forgets: not everything that enters your system is meant to stay. Every day, your body performs the miraculous act of discerning what serves your highest vitality and releasing what doesn’t – no guilt, no negotiation, just clear, decisive elimination. In Traditional Chinese Medicine, the Large Intestine is the Lung’s perfect partner, completing the Metal element’s wisdom of conscious receiving and conscious releasing.
The Sacred Art of Saying No
At midlife, when we’ve accumulated decades of experience with what works and what doesn’t, we’re finally equipped to apply this same wisdom to our emotional, energetic, and relational lives. The question isn’t whether you need better boundaries – it’s whether you’re ready to trust your inner knowing enough to enforce them.
BREATHE: Inhale Possibility, Exhale What No Longer Serves
“Let go of the battle. Breathe quietly and let it be.
Let your body relax and your heart soften.
Open to whatever you experience without fighting.”
~~ Jack Kornfield
Greetings to all my precious people!!
You’ve been breathing your entire life, yet most of us have never truly learned how to breathe. In Traditional Chinese Medicine, the Lungs are called the “Master of Qi” and they govern not just oxygen exchange, but the very life force that animates everything we do. During Autumn’s Metal season, when Lung energy is at its peak, we’re offered a profound invitation: to transform breathing from an unconscious survival mechanism into conscious medicine.
The Revolution in a Single Breath
This isn’t about perfecting some complicated technique. It’s about remembering that every inhale is an opportunity to draw in possibility, and every exhale is a chance to release what’s ready to go. At midlife, when we finally have the wisdom to know the difference, conscious breathing becomes one of our most potent tools for transformation.
