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Creating Sanctuary
“Once those protectors trust that it is safe to separate,
the Self will spontaneously emerge,
and the parts can be enlisted in the healing process.”
~~ Bessel van der Kolk
Greetings to all my precious people!!
Last week, we began the practice of returning—the simple, profound act of noticing when you’ve left yourself and choosing to come back. To your breath. To your body. To this moment.
Many of you wrote to share what you noticed. The restlessness at first. The wandering mind. The urge to check your phone, to DO something, to be anywhere but HERE.
And then—sometimes in the third or fourth day—a softening. A settling. A recognition: “Oh. I’m here. I’m safe. I can rest here.”
This is not small. This is the beginning of sanctuary.
Returning to Sanctuary
“’Finding yourself’ is not really how it works. You aren’t a ten-dollar bill in last winter’s coat pocket. You are also not lost. Your true self is right there, buried under cultural conditioning, other people’s opinions, and inaccurate conclusions you drew as a kid that became your beliefs about who you are. ‘Finding yourself’ is actually returning to yourself, an unlearning, an excavation, a remembering who you were
before the world got its hands on you.”
~~ Emily McDowell
Greetings to all my precious people!!
Welcome to 2026. Welcome to January. Welcome to the space between what was and what will be.
We are still in deep winter—the Water season, the time of maximum stillness before the first stirrings of spring. And our culture is screaming at you to DO something: Set goals. Make resolutions. Transform yourself. Hustle harder. Be NEW.
But your soul knows better.
Your soul knows that you don’t need to FIND yourself, as Emily McDowell reminds us. You’re not lost. You never were.
You were buried. Under decades of conditioning, expectations, performance, trying to be who you thought you should be.
And for the past several months—through autumn’s clearing and winter’s remembering—you’ve been doing the sacred work of excavation. Of returning. Of coming home to who you were before the world got its hands on you.
This is not small work. This is the work.
The Seed Knows What It Will Become
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“Because true belonging only happens when
we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world,
our sense of belonging can never be greater than
our level of self-acceptance.”
~~ Brené Brown
Greetings to all my precious people!!
We have arrived at the final Friday of 2025. The space between years. The liminal time when one cycle has completed and another hasn’t quite begun.
This is the deepest winter when Water season is at its peak. Maximum yin. The darkest dark before the light slowly returns. And our culture desperately wants to rush through this. To skip the fertile void. To jump straight into New Year’s resolutions, vision boards, and “New Year, New You” transformation programs.
But the soul knows better.
The Wisdom That Was Never Lost
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“There is a faith in loving fiercely
the one who is rightfully yours,
especially if you have
waited years and especially
if part of you never believed
you could deserve this
loved and beckoning hand
held out to you this way.”
~~ David Whyte
Greetings to all my precious people!!
We have crossed the threshold into December. The darkest month of the year in the Northern Hemisphere. We are in deep Water season now—the element of winter in Chinese Medicine, the time of maximum yin, when all of nature turns inward to rest in the fertile darkness.
This is the season of incubation. Of seeds held in the dark soil. Of potential waiting beneath the frozen ground. Of wisdom so deep and ancient that it needs the quiet of winter to be heard.
November asked us to clear the way—to release what had completed, to make space for what wants to emerge. We practiced homecoming: returning to ourselves by letting go of physical clutter, emotional weight, mental noise, and the stories that no longer fit who we are becoming.
Now, in December, we remember.
Not in the nostalgic sense—not looking backward with longing or regret. But re-membering in the deepest sense: putting ourselves back together. Reclaiming the parts of ourselves we forgot. Recognizing the wisdom that was never actually lost—only buried beneath years of conditioning, trauma, and the relentless noise of a culture that profits from our forgetting.
Healthy Foods for Fall
The season of fall brings cooler weather and shorter days. As with any season, the world adjusts accordingly. Plants begin to go dormant, animals begin scrounging for food to store to get them through the upcoming winter months and humans start winterizing everything.
As fall descends on the land, it reminds us we need to start cutting back on the numerous cooling foods that are consumed during the summer months. Things like raw foods, salads, juices and fruits should be decreased because they can create too much cold in the body, according to traditional Chinese medicine. continue reading
