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You Can’t Go Back But You Can Go Home
“I can’t go back to yesterday
because I was a different person then.”
~~ Alice, Alice in Wonderland
Greetings to all my precious people!!
You’ve changed.
Maybe you don’t want to admit it. Maybe it’s uncomfortable. Maybe the people around you wish you’d go back to being who you were.
But you can’t.
Alice knew this. Once you fall down the rabbit hole, once you see what you’ve seen, once you wake up even a little—you can’t go back to yesterday.
You were a different person then.
What’s Actually Happening
Here’s what I’ve witnessed in 20 years of working with women’s bodies:
There’s a moment when women realize they can’t keep living the way they’ve been living.
Not because they’re failing. Not because something’s wrong with them.
Because they’ve outgrown the old container.
Like the Snake shedding skin. Like Alice growing too big for the room.
You’ve changed. And the old ways don’t fit anymore.
The old strategies:
- Pushing through exhaustion
- Ignoring your body’s signals
- Performing who you think you should be
- Fixing yourself to fit someone else’s expectations
- Numbing the ache with busyness, food, screens, anything
They don’t work anymore.
Not because you’re broken. Because you’re WAKING UP.
We Are The Volcanoes
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“We are volcanoes.
When we women offer our experience as our truth,
as human truth, all the maps change.
There are new mountains.”
~~ Ursula K. Le Guin
Greetings to all my precious people!!
We are volcanoes. What an amazing statement to proclaim!
Not flowers. Not gentle streams. Not soft background music while men do the important work.
Volcanoes.
Powerful. Disruptive. World-changing.
And for too long, we’ve been taught to keep the pressure down. To stay dormant. To never let the truth erupt.
But the Fire Horse year doesn’t allow dormancy.
It arrived on February 17th (six weeks ago), and if you’ve been feeling the intensity – the demand to be authentic, to speak truth, to stop performing – that’s Fire Horse energy.
And it’s calling the volcano in you to ERUPT.
Spring Equinox & The Fix It Trap
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“If I just fixed that one thing, I’d finally feel OK.”
~~ Kate Gies
Greetings to all my precious people!!
Today is the Spring Equinox. Equal light and dark. Perfect balance. The moment between winter’s interior work and spring’s outward emergence.
And I want to ask you a question that might make you uncomfortable:
What are you asking your appearance to do for you?
Not your body. Your appearance.
Your weight. Your skin. Your hair. Your wrinkles. Your belly. Your thighs.
What are you asking them to prove?
The Cassandra Curse
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“Cassandra was given the gift of prophecy from the gods, but she was also cursed: no one would believe her predictions. Even as the war she had warned against raged, no one took her seriously.”
~~ Elizabeth Lesser
Greetings to all my precious people!!
You are Cassandra.
You know what your family needs. You sense what your workplace needs. You can feel what the world needs.
But when you speak, your words fall flat.
Not because you’re wrong. You’re usually right. But because women’s voices – our knowing, our intuition, our prophecy – have been denigrated and dismissed for centuries.
This is the Cassandra Curse.
And if you’ve ever felt it, if you’ve ever known something deeply, spoken it clearly, and watched everyone ignore you, then you know exactly what I’m talking about.
Your Body is Screaming. Are You Listening?
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“Many people can listen to their cat more intelligently than they can listen to their own despised body. Because they attend to their pet in a cherishing way, it returns their love. Their body, however, may have to let out an earth-shattering scream in order to be heard.”
~~ Marion Woodman
Greetings to all my precious people!!
Your body is screaming.
Maybe not literally. Maybe not yet. But if you’ve been ignoring the whispers – the exhaustion, the weight that won’t budge, the insomnia, the pain, the cycles that feel chaotic, the rage that surfaces before your period – then the scream is building.
Marion Woodman knew this. She spent her life working with women’s bodies and psyches, and she noticed something devastating: We listen to our pets more intelligently than we listen to our own bodies.
We notice when the cat is off. We take the dog to the vet at the first sign of trouble. We cherish them, attend to them, read their signals.
But our own bodies? We despise them. We ignore them. We override them. We demand they perform.
And when they finally scream – via illness, through crisis, or in the midst of a “breakdown,” we’re shocked.
How did this happen? Why didn’t I see it coming?
You did see it coming. Your body told you. You just weren’t listening.
